PHOTO BY // JENNY LANE STUDIOS
SEVERAL YEARS AGO, AT A MEXICAN RESTAURANT IN NASHVILLE, MY DEAR FRIEND GAVE ME GREAT ADVICE ABOUT A PERSON THAT WAS BREATHING TOXICITY INTO MY LIFE. SHE STRUCK ME AT MY CORE WHEN SHE SAID, “SOMETIMES YOU HAVE TO ACCEPT THAT PEOPLE COME INTO YOUR LIFE FOR A SEASON. LET THIS SEASON END AND PREPARE FOR THE NEXT ONE.” I OFTEN FIND MYSELF REPLAYING THIS LIFE-CHANGING CONVERSATION.
All of us should find gratitude in knowing that we get the opportunity to start a new season. The last season could be one that you are excited to see change, or maybe it was a triumphant moment in your life that you want to savor. If you’re like me, as you get older you might find change is harder to accept. However, you need to remind yourself that just as the season brings a new temperature, you’re in charge of the thermostat.
In your home, if it’s too hot or too cold, you adjust the thermostat. The temperature change isn’t instant, but you trust that eventually the thermostat will reach the temperature you desire. Have you adjusted the thermostat for your life?
If you’re going through hard times and feel like you are taking too much heat, adjust your thermostat. Set your focus and recalibrate your mindset. That feels so much easier said than done, but it can be done.
Nearly two decades ago, I hit an all-time low. I was depressed. I never go to the doctor, but I was desperate for help to make this feeling go away. I was prescribed a low dosage of Zoloft. I was afraid to take it. I couldn’t wrap my head around the idea that I needed medication. However, I couldn’t find joy in any aspect of my life. I was consumed by a feeling of nothingness. When I took the Zoloft, I wanted to sleep. The more I slept, the less I had to cope with the self-loathing.
On the rare occasion, a small ray of sunshine would find its way through the clouds and I would get a microburst of energy. I knew I had to use that energy to get out of my situation. My first job out of college in television was in Alpena, Michigan. It was not at all what I had envisioned. I barely got by on a $13,000 salary and the highlight of my week was buying a Hot N’ Ready pizza that I could ration for several days. It didn’t take me long to realize my depression was the result of this disappointment.
I started celebrating those small bursts of energy. Something as simple as making my bed felt like a huge accomplishment. Each time I felt this high, I would take it a step further. If I left my apartment, that was a big deal. I remember dropping a slew of resumes at the post office with the excitement many might feel entering the Publisher’s Clearing House.
I didn’t know then that I had set my thermostat to change the temperature of my life. Each one of those small victories was propelling me toward the temperature I set. If you can find gratitude in your darkest days, your season will change, and sunshine will find you in the clouds. Seasons don’t change overnight, so set your thermostat and never look back.